Phone Chat Tip #15 – Spark Attraction


Attraction is essential to any good relationship. We've all heard this statement before, but most people misunderstand it. When we hear "attraction", we immediately think "physical attraction". But physical attraction is just one part of the equation.

The definition of the word explains it best: "The action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something." Attraction has as much to do with interest and compatibility, as it does with physical desire. So how can you spark attraction that goes beyond the physical in your relationships?

By asking the right questions when you first meet someone, you can both create and encourage the growth of attraction. These questions will also help you determine whether there is any chance of a connection to begin with!

Here are five questions that will spark attraction in your relationships:

What do you feel most passionate about?

Passion is key to attraction, so knowing what the other person is passionate about will help you determine right away whether you are a match. If their answer excites you, or speaks to your own passions, then you have created a connection that will serve as a strong foundation for a relationship.

What do you like to do in your spare time?

Similar to question one, this question will allow you to connect over hobbies and shared interests. Compatibility is another core component of attraction, and sharing pastimes is a sure sign that you are indeed compatible. If your conversational partner likes to read, for example, and you like to read too, then you immediately have a ton of material to discuss and connect over.

What's your most embarrassing moment?

Save this one for a little later in the conversation, once you have both gotten comfortable. Asking about or volunteering an embarrassing story will allow you to share a laugh, and letting your guard down will pave the way for a deeper connection. A good sense of humor is an attractive quality, and this question will allow you and your partner to show that quality off.

How do you show someone you love them?

This one is not for the faint of heart. A bold but important question to ask, knowing how someone expresses their affection will allow you to determine whether you are compatible and whether their style of love is attractive to you. Some of us are needy and some of us like more space, while the rest of us fall somewhere in between.

Now that you know what to ask to spark attraction with that special someone, get out there and start asking!

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